Tuesday, March 08, 2005
...The Poser...with a Captial P
So reading this book by Brennaman Manning- he's my new friend. He's teaching me how to be real- which is something I think everyone struggles at...in one way or another. My problem is telling my true feelings to someone...whether it'll help me or not. If it might cause them the slightest pain...I'll lie big time.
So the book- it's called, "Posers, Fakers and Wannabees; discovering the real you"...long title- but good book.
So far, he's putting "the poser" into more of a noun form instead of a verb form. It's not something that you do- it's something that you are. Kinda like another personality- like how "he" comes out when the real you doesn't want to deal with something. Totally reminds me of Secret Window- but that's beside the point.
One of things that Brennaman says that I especially liked was, "the poser...will do whatever it takes to maintain the appearence that we are not out of control, that our lives are not unmanagable, that we are not in need of a Rescuer." How true is that? That totally struck a chord with me- because how many times do I sit alone, crying, convinced that I don't need any help from anyone, when in reality I do- from God and from my friends. And another thing he says ties in with that a lot, "The Poser is incapable of true intimacy in any relationship."
And it's true...if you're not yourself with anyone, then how are you supposed to have REAL intimacy with anyone? ...Including God...?
Good questions! Good quotes! Good book. I'm only on chapter two and I have a million things written down that I love. It's funny how God works through books...and real life experiences...
Uhm, have I ever mentioned how much i like learning things?
So the book- it's called, "Posers, Fakers and Wannabees; discovering the real you"...long title- but good book.
So far, he's putting "the poser" into more of a noun form instead of a verb form. It's not something that you do- it's something that you are. Kinda like another personality- like how "he" comes out when the real you doesn't want to deal with something. Totally reminds me of Secret Window- but that's beside the point.
One of things that Brennaman says that I especially liked was, "the poser...will do whatever it takes to maintain the appearence that we are not out of control, that our lives are not unmanagable, that we are not in need of a Rescuer." How true is that? That totally struck a chord with me- because how many times do I sit alone, crying, convinced that I don't need any help from anyone, when in reality I do- from God and from my friends. And another thing he says ties in with that a lot, "The Poser is incapable of true intimacy in any relationship."
And it's true...if you're not yourself with anyone, then how are you supposed to have REAL intimacy with anyone? ...Including God...?
Good questions! Good quotes! Good book. I'm only on chapter two and I have a million things written down that I love. It's funny how God works through books...and real life experiences...
Uhm, have I ever mentioned how much i like learning things?
